So you’ve just stumbled upon your guy’s porn stash. You’re probably thinking, “He’s not attracted to me anymore!” or “He needs other girls to get off!” or “I’m not good enough!”
Calm down, girlfriend – it’s not a big deal. Let me tell you a secret: guys just like porn. Men fall in lust all the time. It’s not because they are born to be cheaters. They’re just hard-wired to recognize traits they are attracted to in other people. He’s with you for a reason, which is why he’s looking at porn and isn’t out with some other gal.
So if you’re what he wants, then why is he looking at porn? Maybe he’s checking off all the porn stars you’re better than. Maybe he’s looking for some cool tricks to pick-up. If this is the case, make sure both of you read Shuv’s article What You Shouldn’t Learn From Porn. More than likely, though, he’s just horny. A lot of times a visual is a lot better than the imagination. While a woman may be a lot better at getting over “not tonight, honey”, a man usually needs to take care of business ASAP.
So what do you do now? Put his porn stash back where you found it and don’t worry unless you see…
…the warning signs
* He can’t stop talking about porn despite trying to change the subject
* He rejects your advances because he’s too busy watching or looking at porn
* He’s consistently not in the mood because he has taken care of himself by watching porn again
* He gives up doing other things because he is too interested in porn.
Take note that these are all signs of addiction. If you really think this guy is that amazing and worth the work, check out my article Does Your Significant Other Take You Seriously?. Otherwise I’d say stop wasting your time and go look for someone else who’s actually interested in you. It looks like this guy just wants to be alone…with a bottle of lotion and a sock.
Tags: Porn, Relationships
