Guys generally like porn. They stash nudie magazines under their bed when they are kids and then end up doing the same thing when they’re married. But why? Porn isn’t made for women. Porn caters to the fantasies of men more often than it does to the fantasies of women. Even so-called “lesbian” porn is made for men to get off to, not women. Now of course there are some women out there who are just rabid about porn and bring it up in every classroom discussion (you know who you are), but most men aren’t going to end up married to an outlier.
Case Study 0: He doesn’t love me because he looks at porn!
Many women have been raised to believe that men watch porn because they don’t find their wives/girlfriends attractive and that they’d rather be having wild sex with someone else. However, this doesn’t have to be a relationship ending problem. It is important to understand that not everyone has the same beliefs, and a lot of people end up stuck with a little bit of crazy.
Solution: Have her take a look at our article “Men Look At Porn. Deal With It.” Make sure you let her know that porn isn’t about not loving her, it is about getting off when she has a “headache” or is “too tired”. If she doesn’t understand, then it might be time to try some gentle couple’s therapy with a non-conservative therapist.
Case Study 1: Ew. Porn is gross.
You can’t really argue with this one. From the perspective of someone who likes an all natural body, porn stars look shaved, plastic, implanted and fake, which to some people is kind of gross. Even so called “lesbian” porn is a spectacle, filled with painted women with extremely long fingernails. (See our article “Eating, Not Beating, Around the Bush” for my opinion on fingernails).
Another gross thing about porn is the fact that porn is about the man in the video getting off, not the woman. It is very rare to find a porn that is about getting the woman off. It is usually all about getting off to or on her. Having an unexcited woman fake a continual orgasm can be quite a turn off.
Solution: If you trust each other enough, now might be the time to make some home movies that you can pull out and watch together later. Another option is wading through the massive amount of porn on the internet until you find home made porn by other couples. If she thinks porn is gross because it is fake, then go find some porn where it is all about making the all natural woman cum instead of just getting cum in her face.
Case Study 2: It is all about degrading women!
There isn’t any way around this one. Porn is about degrading women. There are very few porns that are actually made for women, or about women having a good time. If your sweetheart hates porn because she thinks porn uses and abuses women, then you can’t really argue and you can’t try to get her interested in your favorite face shot porns. You can only adapt.
Solution: See Case Study 1’s solution. Also, let your woman tie you up and dominate you in the home video so that she can’t argue that your home video porn is about degrading her. You also might want to take a look at our article “What You Shouldn’t Learn from Porn” to avoid pitfalls in the bedroom.
Case Study 3: Omg, porn turns me on!
Why are you reading this article? Shut up and enjoy watching porn together you lucky bastard.
Tags: Porn, Relationships, Sex
